After the wedding, changing the usual way of life can be more difficult than it seems at first glance. Certain nuances are present in almost every family life.
Therefore, experts advise loving couples to prepare themselves in advance. There are nine important facts about life after the wedding, which psychologists advise to know.
- Household chores
You should consider in advance who will do household chores: you, your husband, or a housemaid you will hire. In family life, there are such important issues as cleaning, washing, cooking food, etc. It is not so easy to scramble between household chores and work. So, share household duties with your loved one and help each other.
- Financial resources
If you dream of a gorgeous wedding, but you have to save money for it, then be ready for the fact that some austerity measures with string along with the luxurious wedding. Try not to start your family life with repaying debts. It is better to save on a wedding. Besides, there is a honeymoon which also requires some amount of money. So, spend money smartly if you want to find out what is the honeymoon phase in a relationship.
- Family psychologist
Do not rely on the belief that family life is perfect. Every loving couple faces controversies and squabbles. Therefore, it is better to prepare for stressful situations in advance. Find a good family psychologist and feel free to ask them for help. Moreover, you can visit them together with a loved one – there is nothing wrong with that.
- Time for relatives
After the wedding, you will have to spend time not only with your relatives but also with your partner’s family. So, carefully think through communication tactics and guest visits.
- Self-improvement
If your husband calls you the most beautiful and smartest lady in the world, it does not mean that such words are sculptured in the rock. If you do not want your loved one to be shocked once, waking up next to fat and untidy creature, you need to work on yourself. So, do not rush to relax and stuff yourself before heading to bed, immediately after putting on a wedding ring.
- Children
This is another fact about life after the wedding that you should know. The issue of having children concerns only you two. After all, it is you who will be responsible for a child for the rest of life. If you still do not feel ready to have a baby, this is normal. If you do not want to have children at all, and this is also possible, then study the topic of childfree family. The main thing is, to be honest with your loved one.
- Privacy
Even having a beloved husband and children, you can always allow yourself some private space and time. This is your legitimate vital need to restore and maintain a healthy psyche. The main thing is to convey this to your loved one. If you feel that it is time to take a breath and get some rest, then boldly close the door behind you and let the whole world wait.
- Sex is not the main thing
More correctly, sex will not always be in the foreground in your family life. As practice shows, the longer a relationship lasts, the less passion it contains. At some point, your sexual desires may stop matching. Having sex just because you need to is not the best solution to the problem. But the point is that lack of intimacy is a serious test for your marriage. So, seek professional advice if you have some sexual problems.
- You need to work on relationships together
If only one partner is interested in fixing a marriage, nothing good will come of it. Only persistent joint work can bring tangible results. Becoming a husband and wife, each of you takes some responsibility for the development of your relationship. If one spouse does their best, working on relations, and the other just fritters away the time, there will be no result.
